Saturday, December 5, 2009


I read about this holiday wishlist meme on Hey epiphora's site and thought it was a really nice idea. I'm working on granting a few of her wishes, and decided to create a list of my own.

Step One
- Make a post (public, friendslocked, filtered…whatever you’re comfortable with) to your LJ or Myspace or Blog. The important thing is to make sure these wishes are things you really, truly want.
- If you wish for real possible things, make sure you include some sort of contact info in your post, whether it’s your address or just an email address at which you can be contacted by potential wish-grantors, real or imaginary.
- Also, make sure you post some version of these guidelines in your post, so that the holiday joy will spread.

Step Two
- Surf around your friends list/blogroll/RSS feeds (or friendsfriends, or just random journals) to see who has posted their list.
- If you see a wish you can grant, and it’s in your heart to do so, make someone’s wish come true. Sometimes someone’s trash is another’s treasure, and if you have a leather jacket you don’t want or a gift certificate you won’t use–or even know where you could get someone’s dream purebred Basset Hound for free–do it.

You needn’t spend money on these wishes unless you want to. The point isn’t to put people out, it’s to provide everyone a chance to spread the joy. Gifts can be made anonymously or not–it’s your call.

There are no rules with this project, no guarantees, and no strings attached. Just…wish, and it might come true. Give, and you might receive. And you’ll have the joy of knowing you made someone’s holiday special.

So here is my wish list for this holiday season.

1. A graphic designer. I need help with my blog. A banner, maybe a background and some business cards. I want to change the look, but don't know quite what I want, so anyone who could help me figure it out would be great.

2. A day, or weekend in NYC. I can get myself up there, but I would love a place to crash for the night and/or a local to take me around and show me some fantastic places in the city

3. Some info on the BDSM community. I want to get more into the scene, but honestly, I don't really know where to start. I have a profile on Fetlife and I'd love some more friends or advice. (any bdsm toys/restraints or anything would of course be welcome as well)

4. I'd love some good dyke-y/genderqueer porn. I have a couple crash pad videos and superfreak, but I'm looking for more.

5. A make up brush set. I got mine from target a few years ago and between my dog chewing the ends and lots of use, they're showing their age and starting to loose bristles

6. A full time fuck buddy. I'm not actually expecting anyone to be able to give me this, but I'm just putting it out in the universe that I'm not asking for a boy/girlfriend, just someone who wants to have sex as much as I do, and who would like to have sex with me. (It's been far too long since I've had sex on the regular)

7. A chance to see Lady Gaga. I love her so much and couldn't get tickets to her show in Camden. Pretty much anywhere, if you could get the tickets and gave me like 2 weeks notice, I could get there.

8. Ads for my blog. I don't advertise here because I only know of the ads through blogger, and I want to be sure my ads are sex positive and things I would actually endorse, so if you have something you think I'd like, I'd love to advertise it here, just let me know.

9. Good vibes for my grad school applications. I'm getting together my application for a Couples and Family Therapy master's program with a concentration in Sex therapy. I'm really nervous about it, and honestly, I'd just love some good vibes coming my way.

10. Any high end vibrator. I've tried generic bullets, but I don't really like them. Everyone raves about things like the Eroscillator, and the Hitachi Magic Wand and I wonder if I'm missing something.

11. A g spot specific toy. I've never had something designed for G spot stimulation, I've always improvised with my normal toys. I'd like to see if they get the job done better.

If you can grant any of my wishes, either comment here or email me at cleofaye01 at

So that's it kiddies. I'm listing below the other wishlists I know about, and if you have one, just let me know in the comments and I'll add yours as well. So if you can, grant a wish (even if it's not mine) and let me know if there is anything we can grant for you! So this is cleofaye as always saying, if you don't know, ask, and if you're unsatisfied, give direction.

Other wishlists:

Hey epiphora


Essin Em

Garnet Joyce



  1. Great list! Might be able to help you out with toys, even if they're toys you didn't realize you wanted, haha.

  2. Email me, I might be able to hook you up with some porn.
    beautifuldreamerwrites (AT) gmail (DOT) com

  3. I can help you with the banner/design. I've done a few blogs, both blogspot and wordpress and of course my own.

  4. Oh and also depending on what kind of BDSM gear you are interested in, I might be able to help. I have a bag o leather that I think I just need to part with, a few items at a time.

  5. @Dangerous Lilly Both of those things would amazing. Just shoot me an email and let me know what you need from me. cleofaye01 at gmail dot com

  6. I added you to my own list. :)

    As for graphic design, I can definitely help you out there if you need it. I'm also pretty deeply involved with the BDSM community, and I love to mentor, so I'd be glad to help with that as well. :) (And maybe send you some of the stuff I have lying around once I get some money for postage. Sucks being broke.)

    Just contact me at the.mistress.kay at if you're interested. :)