Thursday, July 16, 2009

sex etc

So here it is, the inaugural edition of my new blog for anything and everything sex and sexuality related, appropriately titled sex etc.... I am not an expert, I don't have a degree in sexuality or anything (though I have a BA in psych and my senior thesis was a 23 page paper on the female orgasm), I'm just a girl who loves sex, a lot, and according to others does it pretty well.

I know that not everyone feels the same way about sex as I do, and that's where this blog comes in. I want to help everyone come, even if I can't help everyone do it personally. I want to help anyone who wants to know but is too scared to ask or has been too self conscious to try something.

When I first started having sex, I channeled my honor student instincts into lots of research. I found plenty of places telling me how to have safe sex... but I paid attention in 7th grade sex ed. Condoms are good, STD's are bad.... we know all this already. However, I had a lot of trouble finding anything telling me about the basics of things outside of vanilla, heterosexual sex (not that I'm not a big fan of that as well). I had to learn a lot from trial and error, and I want to help others avoid making the mistakes that I did.

So this blog will NOT cover sex ed from high school. Everyone has had those scare tactics enough. Use condoms if you're not fluid bonded with someone. Use whatever protection you find works best for you if you are. I've said it, and now we can move on to more interesting and useful things.

Though I do have to make the disclaimer as well that though I advocate S&M and submission in many senses, I will say that I only believe in what practitioners of BDSM refer to as SSC, safe, sane, and consensual. Be safe in your play, make sure you know what you're doing before you start, and make sure you know how to get out of it if things are too intense. Be aware of what is going on around you, and make sure you know and trust your partner and are completely comfortable with everything that will happen. Finally, make sure you know that the person you're with is comfortable with everything that's going on, and that they have the means to express any doubts in a judgment free and understanding environment. With that said, have fun out there everyone!

This blog will include things like, breakdowns and tips for everything from kissing to fisting, sex toy, book, porn and store reviews, responses to interesting sex related articles, and anything else sex related that may come up. So.... Here we go.

1 comment:

  1. I came here today from Cake's. I like this approach and as I'm doing some D/S play I'd like to know more. Reading from the beginning of the archives is something that is always interesting and useful. Rosie